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Most of this book comes out of practical experience by us authors, both Marsha and Joseph, as we bring our unique perspectives to the table. However, a few words of encouragement from just Marsha are necessary. Like most men, Joseph is results oriented -- he's not interested in how you develop the confidence in becoming a skilled practitioner, he just wants to reap the fruits of your labor. But before we get into the technical aspect of all things phallus related, where Joseph can wow us with his expertise, allow Marsha a few words about self-empowerment:

At some time in our lives, most straight women face the fact that we feel insecure about how to perform certain sexual maneuvers on our mates. How do we know we're doing it right? Other than a few moans or "yeah, baby"s, how can we really understand what makes it work for them? One thing you'll learn from reading this book is how to get more comfortable with your man's body. As a whole, guys aren't more excited by handjobs than other sexual acts because we are understandably less skilled at it than they are. By the time your guy hits thirty, his penis has enjoyed literally thousands of self-administered HJs. What seems so routine to males can be intimidating to us. When your man expects the mundane, surprise and delight him with your newfound prowess.

I can't emphasize enough that relaxing and learning not to fear his body (his penis in particular) can transform your whole relationship. Your fingers reveal a lot more than you think about how you feel about your man. (Also, guys love it when you admire their proud members.)

I know that penises are kind of mystifying (and can look, well, weird), but a good handjob begins with an authoritative touch. Let's spend a little time down there familiarizing ourselves.