Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man
The catch-me-if-you-can lover...Phil's romantic and passionate one minute, distant and retreating the next.
The deviously manipulative coworker or boss...Jack denies resenting Nora's rapid rise in the company, but when they're assigned to work together on a project, he undermines her.
The obstructionist, procrastinating husband...Bob keeps telling his wife he'll finish the painting job he began years ago, but he never seems to get around to it.
These are all classic examples of the passive-aggressive man. This personality syndrome -- in which hostility wears a mask of passivity -- is currently the number one source of men's problems in relationships and on the job. In Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man, Scott Wetzler draws upon numerous case histories from his own practice to explain how and why the passive-aggressive man thinks, feels, and acts the way he does. Dr. Wetzler also offers advice on:
How to avoid playing victim, manager, or rescuer to the "P-A"
How to get his anger and fear into the open
How to help the "P-A" become a better lover, husband, and father
How to survive passive-aggressive game playing on the job
Living with a man's passive aggression can be an emotional seesaw ride. But armed with this book, you can avoid the bumpy landings.
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ANATOMY OF PASSIVE-AGGRESSION
When the King of Hearts in Alice in Wonderland tries to calm the Mad Hatter's hysteria by saying, "don't be nervous or I'll have you executed on the spot," the warning could easily have emerged from the lips of a passive-aggressive man. "Yes, no!" "Stop, go!" "I never lie, I was just protecting you from the truth!" What does he mean? The King of Hearts and most passive-aggressive men share the maddening characteristic of never saying exactly what they mean.
He may be a legal wizard, a computer genius, a brilliant analytical scientist or a guy who runs a newsstand,... see more