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Product Details
Touchstone, June 2002
Trade Paperback, 240 pages
ISBN-10: 0743211456
ISBN-13: 9780743211451
Description
"HOW COULD YOU DO THAT TO ME?"
We've all had friendships that have gone bad. Whether it takes the form of a simple yet inexplicable estrangement or a devastating betrayal, a failed friendship can make your life miserable, threaten your success at work or school, and even undermine your romantic relationships.
Finally there is help. In When Friendship Hurts, Jan Yager, recognized internationally as a leading expert on friendship, explores what causes friendships to falter and explains how to mend them -- or end them. In this straightforward, illuminating book filled with dozens of quizzes and real-life examples, Yager covers all the bases, including:
The twenty-one types of negative friends -- a rogues' gallery featuring such familiar types as the Blood-sucker, the Fault-finder, the Promise Breaker, and the Copycat
How to recognize destructive friends as well as how to find ideal ones
The e-mail effect -- how electronic communication has changed friendships for both the better and the worse
The misuse of friendship at work -- how to deal with a co-worker's lies, deceit, or attempts at revenge
How to stop obsessing about a failed friendship
And much more
The first highly prescriptive book to focus on the complexities of friendship, When Friendship Hurts demonstrates how, why, and when to let go of bad friends and how to develop the positive friendships that enrich our lives on every level. For everyone who has ever wondered about friends who betray, hurt, or reject them, this authoritative book provides invaluable insights and advice to resolve the problem once and for all.
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Browse Inside When Friendship HurtsHow did you come to write this book?
When I was speaking about friendship because of my book FRIENDSHIFTS: THE POWER OF FRIENDSHIP AND HOW IT SHAPES OUR LIVES, listeners would come up to me and in a hushed voice say, "I had a friendship that ended," with obvious regrets and embarrassment. I then asked a list of working Moms that I was on if anyone had ever had a friendship end and if she did, how did it impact on her. A woman wrote to me that when she was a pre-teen of 11, her best friend called her something terrible and it ended their friendship. That woman, who was a successful business woman and who was also happily married and with two children, admitted to me that she had never had a friendship that close again. That how much that friendship ending had frightened and scared her.
Those were just some of the real-life stories that led me to conducting the extensive original research that became the basis of WHEN FRIENDSHIP HURTS. The book obviously struck a real universal nerve since it's been translated into 17 languages in countries around the world with 5 more translations in preparation. I've received hundreds of emails from readers who have thanked me for writing the book. They share that they thought there was something wrong with them because a friendship didn't work out. The stories I've heard that are especially powerful are from those who had a friendship end and they didn't know why, and their former friend refused to discuss what happened. They find my discussion of that type of situation in WHEN FRIENDSHIP HURTS helps them to heal.
