Chapter One: The Definition of Whining
When adults are asked to define whining the answers usually sound like this:
"The begging that drives me crazy..."
"Crying and whimpering that makes me feel sorry for them..."
"Once it starts, I know it's not going to stop until I give in..."
What these parents are doing is describing what whining is like for them.
They know that it upsets their equilibrium and that they feel manipulated. What parents need to understand is that whining is a technique
children use to get their way. It is as simple as that -- and it is
manipulative. Adults feel...
IntroductionPam walks in the house having just picked up her two children at school. On the drive home, she had told both children that she had to make some work-related phone calls as soon as they got home. She asked the children to take their school things to their rooms and change clothes while she conducted her business.
Once at home, however, the children dump their school bags on the living room floor and fly into the kitchen whining that they're hungry, they need snacks, they must have some milk and cookies right away.
Pam reminds them that she's asked for a few minutes to make some business calls, and she asks...