You're On Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me)

You're On Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me)

Mentoring Your Child During the College Years

Realistic and practical advice for parents of college-age kids
Parents whose kids are away at college have a tough tightrope to walk: they naturally want to stay connected to their children, yet they also need to let go. What's more, kids often send mixed messages: they crave space, but they rely on their parents' advice and assistance. Not surprisingly, it's hard to know when it's appropriate to get involved in your child's life and when it's better to back off.
You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me) helps parents identify the boundaries between necessary involvement and respect for their child's independence. Marjorie Savage, who as a parent herself empathizes with moms and dads, but who as a student services professional understands kids, offers advice on wide-ranging issues, including:
• How to cope with your family's mood changes in the months before move-in day on campus
• Why students complain about the food but still manage to gain fifteen pounds their first year
• How to teach basic financial responsibility, including the handling of credit cards and academic expenses
• When parental intervention is critical
With anecdotes and suggestions from experienced parents and college staffs nationwide, the strategies and tips provided throughout will help you to create a loving, supportive partnership responsive to the needs of both you and your children.
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  • Touchstone | 
  • 352 pages | 
  • ISBN 9781416596073 | 
  • May 2009
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Chapter One: A Summer of Change

Making the Most of the Months Before College Begins

Every year, as a new group of high school graduates and their parents watch the calendar pages turn toward September, emotions begin to churn. Mothers and fathers who were filled with pride when the college acceptance letters arrived a few months ago will soon find themselves wondering, "How can this kid possibly succeed in college? He can't even get out of bed in the morning by himself."

Students who are convinced that they belong at the college of their dreams are equally convinced a day later that they will never fit in: "I think the... see more

About the Author

Marjorie Savage
Photo Credit: Patrick O'Leary

Marjorie Savage

Marjorie Savage is the Parent Program director at the University of Minnesota, serving as a liaison between the school and the parents of its 28,000 undergraduates. She lives in Inver Grove Heights, Minnesota.

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