The iConnected Parent

The iConnected Parent

Staying Close to Your Kids in College (and Beyond) While Letting Them Grow Up

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"Just let go!"
That’s what parents have been told to do when their kids go to college. But in our speed-dial culture, with BlackBerries and even Skype, parents and kids are now more than ever in constant contact. Today’s iConnected parents say they are closer to their kids than their parents were to them—and this generation of families prefers it that way. Parents are their children’s mentors, confidants, and friends—but is this good for the kids? Are parents really letting go—and does that matter?

Dr. Barbara Hofer, a Middlebury College professor of psychology, and Abigail Sullivan Moore, a journalist who has reported on college and high school trends for the New York Times, answer these questions and more in their groundbreaking, compelling account of both the good and the bad of close communication in the college years and beyond. An essential assessment of the state of parent-child relationships in an age of instant communication, The iConnected Parent goes beyond sounding the alarm about the ways many young adults are failing to develop independence to describe the healthy, mutually fulfilling relationships that can emerge when families grow closer in our wired world.

Communicating an average of thirteen times a week, parents and their college-age kids are having a hard time letting go. Hofer’s research and Moore’s extensive reporting reveal how this trend is shaping families, schools, and workplaces, and the challenge it poses for students with mental health and learning issues. Until recently, students handled college on their own, learning life’s lessons and growing up in the process. Now, many students turn to their parents for instant answers to everyday questions. "My roommate’s boyfriend is here all the time and I have no privacy! What should I do?" "Can you edit my paper tonight? It’s due tomorrow." "What setting should I use to wash my jeans?" And Mom and Dad are not just the Google and Wikipedia for overcoming daily pitfalls; Hofer and Moore have discovered that some parents get involved in unprecedented ways, phoning professors and classmates, choosing their child’s courses, and even crossing the lines set by university honor codes with the academic help they provide. Hofer and Moore offer practical advice, from the years before college through the years after graduation, on how parents can stay connected to their kids while giving them the space they need to become independent adults.

Cell phones and laptops don’t come with parenting instructions. The iConnected Parent is an invaluable guide for any parent with a child heading to or already on campus.
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  • Atria Books | 
  • 288 pages | 
  • ISBN 9781439148303 | 
  • June 2011
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Reading Group Guide

The following reading group guide is intended to help you find in-ter-esting and rewarding approaches to your reading of The iConnected Parent. We hope this enhances your enjoyment and appreciation of the book. For a complete listing of reading group guides from Simon & Schuster, visit readinggroups.simonandschuster.com.

INTRODUCTION

In the months since The iConnected Parent appeared, we have heard from book groups around the country. Parents of college-age, college-bound, and younger students have gathered to discuss the book’s ideas and talk about their own parenting and “iConnections” with their kids.

We have also given talks to professional and community groups, parents of high school and college students, college admissions staff, and mental health practitioners. The question-and-answer sessions and conversations afterward have been lively and meaningful. Realizing that The iConnected Parent offers much to talk about, we have developed discussion guidelines for various groups. Below are suggested questions to start the conversations, organized by type of group.

TOPICS AND QUESTIONS FOR DISCUSSION
For Local Book Groups: Parents (and Grandparents) of College and High School Students


1. How different is the communication described in The iConnected Parent from when you were in college or in your years just after high school?

2. What do you think has driven these cha see more

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